The *most* important of human relationships, contrary to what everyone is so focused on today, is not the sexual relationship between partners -- gay or straight -- but between the parent and the child. Spouses and lovers and hookups come and go, die and can be even "replaced" in some sense, but neither the parent nor the child can ever be replaced. These are the most determinative relationships in humanity -- our parents form our sense of self for better or worse, and we would sooner die or kill to protect our children in a way that admits of no rivals.
the male and female parental pair optimize the healthy formation of the
child -- we are indeed a truly *sexed* species where the
complementarity of the male and female not only are necessary to
engender life but help us make sense of both the interior world and the
exterior world, the physical and the external as well as the emotional
and the internal. The natural parents are necessarily one male and one
female -- that is the way biology and nature are so devised and that
human life flourishes.
So when a child has lost his or her
parents, and the State is in the sad need to find a suitable stop gap to
provide for the child -- (and the good of the child is the ONLY thing
that must be considered in this instance -- all other political, social,
and sexual-gender agenda must be put aside for only the good of the
child)-- the only sane public policy is to find a situation that best
approximates the natural male-female relationship of the natural parents
that the child lost.
While it is commendable that gay couples
or singles may wish to generously raise children by adoption (or third
party contributions), which they must do because their own relationship
is necessarily sterile, it seems that it is in the pressing interest of
the child as well as the State to try to find suitable male-female
couples to meet this need as a matter of policy.
This is not to
denigrate the homosexual couple (nor the single who wishes to adopt) who
may well be loving, committed, generous and caring surrogates, but
rather to seek first, foremost, and exclusively the very best for the
child alone. Where society is called in to try to accommodate what
nature or circumstance has deprived the child of -- namely, his or her
natural father and mother -- the State ought to find an adopting couple
to serve as both surrogate mother and father, something a homosexual
couple can never do.